The miraculous gift of change

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This isn’t the first time I have written about this - and I am sure it won’t be the last - but here I am, in yet again another transitional phase and so the subject of change and evolution is coming up for me once more.

As human beings we face a little contradictory turmoil over change… on one hand we are living, breathing, expanding beings who crave growth and movement to provide us with the stimulation we need. However - on the other hand we can often be very fearful of things looking different to what how they did previously - our desire for safety can make us see change as risky, as daunting and overwhelming.

I believe this is one of the reasons that so many people get this feeling of ‘being stuck’. A stagnation that feels dull and boring, it brings a sense of numbness to us when we aren’t evolving.

So we have a choice.

We can either embrace and learn to leap forward into the arms of change, or we can hang back and keep ourselves in the very same place that might be causing us frustration.

The ironic thing is - even if we try and prevent things changing - it will happen to us anyway. So in some ways our resistance is futile.

Everything around us evolves, grows and cycles. The weather, the seasons, nature. You only have to look outside of your window to see change occurring in every second of every day.

It actually takes more effort to brace against change than it does to flow with it.

In my experience the fear of change is usually worse than the change itself.

As a person with a tendency to overthink and over-analyse - I have in the past spent so long dwelling on what things ‘could’ look like that I have built up so much fear in my nervous system that even a baby step towards it can feel terrifying.

However, over the past few years I have got comfortable with growth and evolution - and in fact change now excites me. It is a little signal to say that I am stepping up and rising into a new version of myself - and with my passion for self development and curiosity about myself, this growth fuels me.

It doesn’t mean I don’t feel fear, and it doesn’t mean I don’t come up against resistance as things shape-shift. Quite the opposite in fact - these things are still very much present within me - however I can now work WITH them instead of trying to fight against them to learn about myself.

What is it that I am afraid of?

What is this fear protecting me from?

What does this part of me - that feels scared - need to help me move forward?

How can I give myself that need?

By asking myself these questions I can start to understand the fears and then begin to feel compassion towards them. Understand what they are there for - and that they aren’t a weakness or a reflection of my worthiness - they are little messages to give me an opportunity to love myself harder.

When I turn this angst into understanding and nurture, the fear doesn’t tend to have such a hold on me anymore and I can step into change with grace.

Change is a beautiful thing.

It is expansive, powerful and magical when we allow it in. It is in fact something I see as a great gift because things can change in a second. That means the place you are in right now might look very different tomorrow - and isn’t there a lot of liberation when you think of that?

When things are going ‘well’ and life is flowing along effortlessly, sometimes we can sabotage ourselves by beginning to think of all the things that could go wrong. We try and ‘keep’ in that feeling because we are scared that it might disappear.

Change is not something worth fearing at this time - it actually steals some of the joy from living in the moment and embracing the wonderful place you are in.

When things are not going ‘so well’, and we are in a challenging place with our emotions, it can be very easy to think that we are stuck there, that we will feel like this forever.

How wonderful is it that ANYTHING is possible and situations could shift in a matter of minutes, allowing you to think in a totally different way?

When we live in fear of change we tend to be blind to the little miracles all around us. We don’t notice the gifts in each day, we don’t open ourselves up to the possibilities that are offered to us, we don’t create space or room for our own growth.

When we open our heart to our own evolution - opportunities present themselves, life can evolve. Physically, mentally, emotionally and energetically - we can metamorphosize.

So as I stand on the cusp of change in every area of my life, I wonder if you will take these leaps with me?

It is time to let these caterpillars grow their wings and bloom as the beautiful butterflies that they are.

You may not know it yet, but you have been training for this your whole life. You were born ready.