Are you forcing or trusting?

I have always been a little bit of a bulldozer when it comes to getting what I want. Generally speaking if I want something then I will find a way to make it happen - however this can often lead to me being in a place of forcing instead of trusting and allowing. Being an action taker has always been something I have been celebrated for - not being afraid to go after things and do whatever it takes to make them happen has mostly been seen as a positive.

However, there is a very fine line between taking action and forcing things.

Some things, no matter how much we think we want them, may not be ours for the taking. There are times when we simply have to let them go - despite wanting to cling on for dear life because we have created an outcome in our minds.


How do you tell the difference though?


For me, when I am in a place of pushing and forcing, trying to make things happen - it comes from a place of fear and anxiety. It comes from feeling like I need something so badly because it will be the answer to my problems. It often blind-sights me into trying so hard to make things happen - that I feel consumed by the desire to have that thing.

On the flip-side, when I am in a place of trusting and allowing, I feel content, relaxed, calm and happy. I feel like I am in flow and that the right things will come to me. I don't have a specific outcome in my mind - and I feel excited. I feel open to the things that might come up and I trust that whatever is meant for me will happen - regardless.


It is definitely OK to take action


I still believe that it is important to take action - but doing it from a place of kindness and trust over fear and anxiety will lead us to a much more aligned path. Taking action and putting in the steps needed to take us closer to our big visions or dreams is totally different to trying to force an outcome.

We don't always get what we want in life - no matter how much we push. The things that are meant for us will happen with some gentle action taking - if something is not meant for you - then no amount of pushing will make it happen naturally - or if it does it will undoubtedly unravel at some point.

The only thing that forcing and pushing will do is make you anxious, stressed out and feed the fear that is driving it.

I say this as much to you as I say it to myself.

Try sitting for a couple of minutes in stillness, without your TV on, without your phone connected to your hand, or even go out for a gentle walk on your own. Just one or two minutes of quiet is all it takes. Ask yourself if the action you are taking in your life at the moment feels frantic and forceful, or calm and exciting.

Notice what comes up. Notice the feelings in your body and the emotions that come with it. Become an observer of yourself.

And then see if you can gently let go of anything that feels like a hard slog.


This is how you start to trust.



PS... I would love to hear if any of this resonates with you at the moment so do leave a comment or drop me an email here if you want to talk personally.