Why do we fear change?
Why do you fear change? What is it about change that daunts you so much? I have been thinking about this quite a lot recently and I feel like it is something that has been conditioned into the human race!. How many times have you said, or heard the words... 'I don't like change'? Have you ever stopped to ponder just how ludicrous this sentence is when you really think hard about it?
Let me explain why I think it is a bit of an odd one...
The only thing in life that we can utterly rely on, is change. It is the one and only constant force that we can never escape from. Is this why you fear it so much? Because it is beyond your physical capabilities to stop it? Is it because you liked the way things were and you are worried that you might not like the things that are about to come up?
Saying we 'don't like change' is basically like saying, we don't like living.
What about if you started thinking about change in terms of growth? How does that make you feel? Growth to me is empowering and suggests evolution. Without growth we cannot develop our being. We cannot step forwards or progress in our lives. Growth is what we are all hear to do.
I think people spend too long resisting change. I think the struggle and fight that they put up is a huge hindrance and by trying to stay still and in one place, there is an overwhelming feeling of being stuck and lost. But if you simply surrendered to your growth and to the changes that will occur then things flow a little more.
Instead of feeling like you are swimming against a current, you are simply being guided by the flowing motion of change. Sometimes things speed up, sometimes they slow down - they will always keep evolving with every single breath you take and every single second that passes. You simply cannot stop that.
Change doesn't have to be scary, and it doesn't have to be something that 'we don't like'. You have a choice as to whether you decide to fight a losing battle against change - and in the process cause discomfort and suffering to yourself and probably others - OR - you can simply trust the magic of change, growth, evolution, progress, forward motion... because it IS going to happen.
You change, I change, people around us change, life changes, work changes, the weather changes, the seasons change... change is what we are here to experience.
I am going to leave you with a quote that I found this week and LOVE...
"I stopped telling myself that I'm lost.
I'm on a road with no destination, I'm just driving with hope that I'll find a place that I like and I'll stay there.
I'm not lost, I'm on my way."